Make peace with IBM

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This month I reflected back on some memories which I struggled with for far too long. I was not bitter about anything or even smug, just I felt the need to want to get over something which had plagued bad blood and negativity for so long.

I began sporting a workbag which proudly had the IBM logo on it. While I am not necessarily for or against IBM as an organisation, I felt the need to make peace with the brand and show off the things that I thought were good – from my experience.

I might add that not long before I came to this realisation, I had bumped into an old colleague ‘Jack’ on Collins St during lunchtime. We were both shocked but happy to see each other. He gave me an overview of what the former team had become and also the update that a certain manager had been made redundant. Poor guy… This may have been part of the reason I decided to ‘make peace’ and maybe also have a gloat on Facebook, since it was me who called for his sacking almost 3 year earlier!

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Run a half marathon

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Okay, so its really just training for the Melbourne Marathon later this year but I decided to sign-up for the half at the Run Melbourne event to test myself and get myself mentally prepared.

The G network largely signed up for the event – Joey, Nam, Dave, Nigel and myself, and there was also Brendon (back from injury) who couldn’t resist participating in this years event. We couldnt get a G photo so here is one of the Franga Warriors:

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I proved to myself I could do it with a PB of 1 hr 47 mins 15 secs, 8 minutes faster than my previous best time!

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Run Melbourne Half Marathon Medal:

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Mum and Dad were around the Botanical Gardens but unfortunately didn’t get to see me compete.

Well, a fun day out and a really good result.  But of course the focus is on the big one.  RunKeeper tells me there are 83 days to go…

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Journal

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“If you haven’t already, I encourage you to start writing a journal to assist you in re-training your brain. Journaling allows us to pause and consider consciously the positives and negatives in our day. It affords us the opportunity to reframe out day in our minds to our benefit. And, it’s one of the simplest ways to cultivate a positive mindset so we can perform better in the face of challenges.”   Text taken from the following URL

So here are some point in time responses to some pertinent questions that have been posed. I don’t think I’ve ever done anything like this before but feel comfortable that its a good enough time to respond…

What am I looking forward to? At the moment it is no surprise that I am looking towards November when the weather warms up. Well not only that but also because we go on holidays to Singapore, Malaysia and Hong Kong (yes again!).  This will be a chance to take a break from normal life, see the extended family (including those who could and couldn’t make it down for our wedding last year) and just as importantly showcase the bundle of joy we have produced over the past 13 months. It’s stressful at the moment; every day seems like a struggle at work (I noticed people have been behaving strangely) and then at home where our lives have been taken over by this crazy young 20 week old who seems to go on mood swings every hour! The key to this is that when I look back each day, each week at what I have accomplished I feel great satisfaction in that I am making a difference in this world and progressing forward in ways I thought unimaginable. I look at how Quentin picks up new things, I look at how Glynis has become and could not be prouder of them both. I really can’t.

What actions do I need to take to keep me on track to achieving my most important goals?  I have always been a multi-tasker.  At least I have lead myself to believing that I am a good one, but it seems of late I discovered I may not be as effective as I need to be.  I remember through work and study, juggling all sorts of pressure I used to think I was doing myself a favour by saying yes all the time – yes to myself and to everyone else.  FOCUS is one thing I need in my life right now, to Follow One Course Until Successful. While I have a list of priorities or at least a “to do” list, I know I need to spend more time on just one or two at the time and put more emphasis on closing items out!

Where am I focusing my time? Right now my time has been focused on the baby, supporting the wife, and when I have spare time I start to look at other stuff.  I made an assessment several weeks ago having read blogs and talked to people that I may not have been pulling my weight at home.  All that changed and now I have hardly any time to look at that list I refer to above! Family is priority and when I look at that from a different angle all else is secondary.  Things do get challenging at times, but I know that in time I’ll look back and be confident I made the right choices.

What am I avoiding?  I am not sure whether it is necessarily avoiding but I know I need better ways of addressing conflict. While its not always an enjoyable experience to encounter and get buried in, I recognise that conflict is not always a bad thing; sometimes can be a way of seizing opportunities to get things done fast. I might go a little further to say that one of the things I should strive to do is to deal with things head on especially when I bump into people. Rather than second guess people’s intent, or even write them off, it may well be worth giving them extra time of day, to offer an opportunity to prove themselves. What can be lost with potentially much to be gained?

What should I be focusing on that will add greater value to my business or life? There are many things I can focus on but right now, I’m thinking about two things that stand out: my start up business and my Chinese. Of course, I think there are a other items on my wish list of things to do that are important but I must remain focused.  Its hard, because when I think about the house,  the car, the job, any other situation involving these it can be a real emotional one re priorities…

What were my three great things for today?  I am not sure how I should answer this one.  I suppose a reflection on the weekend and some comments on this week should suffice. I guess the days and weeks seem to progress slowly.  All good is at home. I know I can step up to the stage and perform. At the moment its structure and routine thats the essential part of my life and making the adjustments accordingly to best make use of my time. As I alluded to earlier, its not just all about me at the moment.

What was my struggle? I question myself at times. I really shouldn’t!

How did I learn and grow today?  How do you really know?

What risks did I take? Of course I did

Did I try a ‘no perfection’ challenge?  What’s that?

What am I proudest of? I’m proud to be alive. I’m grateful to have all the things I have today. I’m happy that there are important people in my life.  I’m proud that I have the ability to make a difference in this world.  I’m more motivated than ever to leave behind a positive impact.

Get the world moving – Half way point

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So we’ve reached the half way point.  I didnt even know this thing was supposed to last 100 days. I thought it was 30, so even though I am a bit confused I am still quite determined to finish.

Lets not forget my second step counter is broken and of course the first one I lost after just 2 days!

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More data below

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I’ll post again when its all over!

Stats with about 20 Days Left

Mental Health

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“Depression, anxiety and panic attacks are NOT a sign of weakness. They are signs of having tried to remain strong for too long. Did you know that 1 in 3 of us go through this at some point in our lives? Would you post this on your wall for at least once?” Somewhere.

Most people won’t know when its on but there is such thing called Mental Health Awareness Week. Share the support! Let those who struggle know they’re not alone…

A donation was made by myself recently to The Mental Health Charity in an attempt to show support of the work they do.  I’m not sure if anyone actually knows but it actually scares me that people can be affected by mental illness.

This document I came across produced by Citipower and Powercor in conjunction with Beyond Blue is a must read for those who suspect they know someone with a problem:

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The number to call for Converge International is 1300687327

New Financial Year

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Happy new financial year folks  I hope it is a good one for you as you get on top of all your money related matters. The first thing I need to do is consolidate my bank accounts which means closing off Bankwest.  I need to also think about salary sacrifice and super especially as we are down to a single income and I want to make the best of my money.

Second thing I wanted to share was a recent article in The Age that Dad alerted me to.  It talks about the fact that most people under the age of 43 would really understand or have experienced recession.  I thought this was a good reminder of one of the realities which we may face in this financial year or not too distant future. Definitely worth the read:

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Going off the topic of recession I wanted to be proactive and last week opened up a Savings account for Quentin at the Bank of Melbourne. I chose this bank because I wanted something different and one with a real local feel.

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Each month I will contribute $1 to his future; below is confirmation of his first dollar received:

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